Saturday 29 October 2011

Bridesmaids and Mothers

For a really stylish wedding it is important that the bridesmaids and the mothers, particularly the mother of the bride, complement the bride's look. The golden rule for the bridal party is not to outshine the bride. Therefore the bride should select her gown first. Confidence in clothes is about how to wear them and how we feel in them.  As with a wedding gown, one can never underestimate the power of having a dress or something special designed and made for bridesmaids and mothers. Even the simplest shapes, when made well and fitted correctly, will look stunning. Cleverly thought-through accessories can really make an outfit too. Fabulous hats, jewellery and shoes worn in the right way will complement the bride, and the whole wedding party will appear really well turned-out.


The modern braidsmaid is glamorous and sophisticated - if you let her be! Therefore, pay attention to your bridesmaids' likes and dislikes. For young bridesmaids and pageboys there are companies specialising in made-to-measure outfits and several chain retailers offer ready-to-wear lines. With adult bridesmaids you have the same options as you have with your wedding gown: couture, made-to-measure, ready-to-wear or dress-maker. For most brides, budget is likely to dictate for their bridesmaids either something ready-to-wear or a design made by a dressmaker. If money is no object, go to a designer for something special.


Whenever possible, shop with all your bridesmaids present and ask to try-on a variety of shapes and colours. Usually, bridesmaids should all wear the same colour or shade. Keep the outfits flattering but simple, and pick up an accent of the bride's gown. Very clean, well-cut gowns in a striking colour will flatter and look great in the photographs and the bridesmaids will not outshine the bride. If there are several bridesmaids with different proportions it is advisable to vary the design slightly to suit each one, but they should all wear the same length. If you want a classic look you could opt for a shorter version of the bride's style and shape of gown or you could dress your bridesmaids in tailored suits.


Mothers can wear anything from full length evening gowns for black tie weddings, to simple cocktail lenght dresses with lace jackets, or velvet coats with fur collars. I would adves opting for ensembles that will be cherished, not just a suit that will never be worn again. Mothers should stay true to their own style and not wear a colour they are not uncomfortable with. Don't match everything - it will be overkill. Seek advice from professionals. If shopping for something ready-to-wear, ask for a personal shopper.


The mother of the bride picks her colour first and advises the groom's mother what she will be wearing and both should think really carefully about how they will look in the photographs.  Above all, mothers should be themselves and be stylish. They shouldn't feel guilty for buying something really fabulous as the photographs will be around for generations to come!


Bra Problem Solver

PROBLEM
EXPLANATION
SOLUTION

The band at the back of the bra rides up.
The band is too big
You need a bra with a smaller back size.

The under wire digs into the armpit.
The cup size is too small.
You need a bra with a larger cup size.
The under wire should encase the breast, not dig into it.

Indents in the shoulder where the straps dig in.
Bra too big in the back and too small in the cup causing
you to pull the straps too tight for support.
You need a bra which is smaller in the back and bigger
in the cup.

Breasts falling out of the bottom of the bra.
The band of the bra is too big and the cup is too small.
You need a bra which is smaller in the back and bigger
in the cup.

Bumpy silhouette under clothes.
Cup encasing the breast is too small and causes the breast
to overspill.
Increase the cup size until the silhouette is smooth.

Wearing the right underwear

Don't spend a fortune on your outerwear and neglect underwear! The most important thing when buying underwear for your wedding day, or any other day, is to get your bra size right. If you don't you'll look like you have four or six breasts, and what you want are two neat bosoms. Dressmakers normally ask to bring your bra or basque with you to about the third fitting. Don't! Have it with you from the start.


So how do you know if you are wearing the right bra? The trick is to finding a good-fitting bra is that you can feel it, you are not wearing a properly fitting one. You should not be able to feel it. If you touch the back of your bra around the rib cage, and the front in the centre, and it is one line around the side, then you are wearing the right size. If your feel it is riding up then it is the wrong size. What most women do wrong is they buy bras that are too big in the back and too small in the cup. Many women get fitted for the first bras as teenagers, are told they have a B-size, and think that they have stayed like that for the next ten years. Often they will have gone up at least in the cup.


As with clothes and shoes you need to try a bra on, because every manufacturer cuts atheir bras and basques differently.  Try to go to a shop offering an expert fitting service and an extensive range of manufacturers and styles. Do not be concerned if the fitter does not use a tape measure. It's trying on until you get the right fit that works.

If you have not been for a bra fitting before it can be a daunting prospect. You can be forgiven for feeling anxious and thinking you'll be embarrassed. Don't be. The ladies in the fitting room will be sensitive to this and have seen it all before.


Considerations when choosing your wedding underwear are what shape and size you are. It's important that a bride checks before she buys her dress what is available in her size underwear. A backless, strepless dress is no good if you are a G-size. You cannot wear aregular strapless bra in larger cup sizes because you will just fall out. You need some support from underneath to hold you in. Bring in a picture of the dress, let the store assistant  how the back is, where the straps are and how low it is cut.


If you are small-chested and slim you can wear practically anything. A bra and sexy knickers, a body or a lacy basque. You can wear strapless and backless and you'll be able to find underwear that lifts, supports and enhances. But take into account how figure-hugging and sheer your dress is because you don't want your underwear to show through. You therefore should look at the lining of the dress and check that it is thick enough if you want to wear something frilly underneath.  If you are smaller and are looking for a plunge bra than don't make the mistake to buy one that is too small. This results in the appearance of four bosoms, two of whick are bulging over the top of the bra! When you buy a plunge bra in a smaller size it doesn't mean 'push out plunge', it means 'fitting your plunge'.


Many brides like to wear a basque. These can be long line, bacless and or without straps. In specialist stores they come in sizes up to FF cup and a 44 back. Backless, strapless basques are fine if you are large in the cup but slim. If you are bigger you don't want to be hanging out under or over it, you need support. If you are quite full you may also be larger in the bottom which many maufacturers forget and therefore a basque can be too tight. In this case you may not want to opt for a strapless dress, but have something that allows you to wear either a bra or basque with straps. You will then be supported correctly without any flesh spilling over. Again, try things on, and keep trying until you find underwear that fits properly.